Indecisiveness is due to overthinking about something which you have little information about. You could also be indecisive due to the options given not being what you would have preferred. Being decisive means not only reaching a decision, but also sticking to it, which is much more beneficial over the long-term.
1. Take your time
Give your decision a deadline. Having a time constraint makes you commit to having to decide. When feeling overwhelmed with a decision, remember, “Don’t sweat the petty stuff, and don’t pet the sweaty stuff”. The less time you spend on deciding on small stuff, the more time you’ll have to research information and pay attention to bigger challenges.
- The information you have gathered will serve as a back-up to the decision you have made.
Draw up a list of the pros and cons of each decision to help break it into smaller portions. This enables you to measure the importance of each point. Your pros could outweigh your cons in terms of length, but make your decision based on the impact each listed item could make.
- Consider the risks of all listed items.
3. Your hesitation
We all know that following your gut is important because it is seldom wrong. There is a reason why your gut is warning you against other choices, but if your gut isn’t on call, identify and acknowledge the route of your hesitation. If a decision gives you a feeling of doom and doubt, it is probably not the one to go for. Is it because you had gone with it in the past, and it did not yield fruitful results? Not learning from your mistakes will lead to their repetition.
- Referencing past experiences about similar decisions can often lead you to making more informed decisions.
If your decision is a life-changing one and you are truly unsure, voice your concerns with people involved who will most probably be impacted by your decision. If you want to sell your house to avoid foreclosure, and your spouse knows nothing about it, conflict will arise.
- Communicating brings about better options you may not have considered on your own.
5. Pause the feelings
If your head is buzzing with irrational feelings and emotions, you will probably make a clouded judgement. Getting your feelings under control helps you make clear and focussed decisions. Find ways to reduce the stressful situation; deep breathes, a short walk around the block, or music are all good practices that centre you into the present moment.
- Incorporating stress-reducers, such as exercise or hobbies, into your daily life allows you to maintain calmness on a long-term basis.
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